Breakup Season

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"And now that we're here, it's so far away
And I feel like I can face the day
And I can't forget, that I'm not ashamed
To be the person that I am today"-Staind 'So Far Away'-

Tonight's post is a little personal.

Is it breakup season right now? Quite a few of my friends have been breaking up recently. And it happened to me too. I read an article recently, stating that breakups tend to spike just before the festive season and Valentine's Day. Why? I don't know... Aside from the financial benefits of saving significantly on Christmas and Valentine's Day presents maybe?

When I started writing this blog a few months ago, I really intended to contribute towards dating/relationsip advice on the Net. No doubt there's a glut of advice out there (including a lot of rubbish), but I thought I could help others by sharing my own personal perspective. I believed that being happy in my relationship somehow 'qualified' me to give advice. Forgive me for being egotistical and condescending. One of the things I've learnt from my own breakup is that noone has all the answers, least of all me.

But I will continue to write.

This post is for you. You who went through that break up. And for me too. Don't we all love to see a wonderfully happy couple that made it through thick and thin and seem destined to be together forever? And also the old couple that made their marriage last over decades till death did them part. Sweet. Wonderful eternal love. I still believe in that. I still believe in that while realizing it may never happen for some. And while realizing that some may never want that kind of love anyway. And while realizing that for some, that love may only come at the end of a road lined with heartbreaks and breakups.

Breakups hurt. I know. I feel you. I'm with you. But perhaps ten years from now we'll look back and realize, that it was not just the only way, but it was the best way.

What are we but the sum of all our experiences, habits, loves and hates? While the past has made you the person you are today, it doesn't have to affect your future in any way you don't want. So make your peace, and realize that there's a whole wonderful future out there that is yours to live. Whether you're single or attached today, it may not be your choice, but it is your reality. Whichever it is, I'm happy for you. Be happy for you too.

[A bit of good news to lift the season - About a week ago a dear friend of mine told me she just got together with her new boyfriend. While I've been waiting for it for quite awhile now, I'm happy it's finally official. I wish you the best Sue]