The small Things

"Watch your thoughts, for they become your words; Watch your words, for they become your actions; Watch your actions, for they become your habits; Watch your habits, for they become your character; Watch your character for it becomes your destiny" -anonymous (Gandhi?)-

I was talking to an old friend last night about New Year resolutions and realized that it's already mid-October. 2 months to go and another new year beckons. How have you fared with this year's new year resolutions?

I find it sobering that the average person (assuming a 70 year life span) only has just over 25000 days to live before it's time to go. Yet, we're often so busy with our lives that our days and months just slip away quickly without us accomplishing much. There are giants among us, whose relentless drive and iron will bring them much success and achievement. But for the rest of us mortals, sometimes we're just too tired at the end of the day to even think of improving our lives in any way.

Here's where I believe the mind and the small things are important. Our lives can be improved over time by firstly setting our minds on a goal, and then taking simple baby steps towards that goal everyday. By having a goal, our subconscious mind starts looking out for opportunities that might eventually lead towards achieving it. And taking small steps is easy, relatively painless, but will definitely reap benefits over time.

A simple example: Brad feels shy and uncomfortable talking to women. So he writes down his goal as to overcome shyness and to be able to talk to women his age without feeling overly nervous. He starts working towards his goal by simply saying hello to his neighbors every morning...

Have a wonderful, achieving final few months of the year.

Simple Action Point: Decide everyday that you want to improve yourself and get better at your relationships/dating life (or anything else you want). Your thoughts subconsciously control your behavior, and ultimately your destiny. While thoughts without action is never enough, setting the right mindset puts you on the right path towards achieving your goals. And if you're prepared to take action, you'll find you can change your life.